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Somnambulist
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Wed Apr 19, 2017 3:25 pm

I have to be slightly unhappy to be happy so that is what it is. I like 70% of my job. The other 20% is just ugh, and the other 10% is upset because I can't sleep as late as I want and can't be someone's personal shopper.

I really wouldn't listen to people say anything about jobs. Everyone says the worst always. Nothing is really ever as bad as people make it out to be. You might not love your first job but you will milk it for all it's worth and then one day you will find something better. I'm a huge believer of job shopping every 1-2 years.

I only have a BA but the first few months out of college were truly the worst in my life. It's a strange transition back to the real world. You're so used to going 24/7 that your adrenaline is still high and everything is terribly unsure. Going from having all of my time organized down to the minute for study plans to having only the gym and Skyrim was uhm, difficult. I literally washed all the walls in my house with a rag because the idea of having nothing to drove me insane. I still don't like sitting around do much of nothing but I'm watching Archer pretty guilt free these days.
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Wed Apr 19, 2017 3:53 pm

Somnambulist wrote:I have to be slightly unhappy to be happy so that is what it is. I like 70% of my job. The other 20% is just ugh, and the other 10% is upset because I can't sleep as late as I want and can't be someone's personal shopper.

I really wouldn't listen to people say anything about jobs. Everyone says the worst always. Nothing is really ever as bad as people make it out to be. You might not love your first job but you will milk it for all it's worth and then one day you will find something better. I'm a huge believer of job shopping every 1-2 years.

I only have a BA but the first few months out of college were truly the worst in my life. It's a strange transition back to the real world. You're so used to going 24/7 that your adrenaline is still high and everything is terribly unsure. Going from having all of my time organized down to the minute for study plans to having only the gym and Skyrim was uhm, difficult. I literally washed all the walls in my house with a rag because the idea of having nothing to drove me insane. I still don't like sitting around do much of nothing but I'm watching Archer pretty guilt free these days.
Oh man, is that what my problem is? I have some things to finish and I'm not leaving the lab for a at least a month, but I've completely lost my mind since my defense and I have no idea why. I haven't slept and I'm just constantly on the verge of losing it, even though I'm finished with what is ostensibly the most stressful part of the entire graduate career. But I went straight to grad school out of undergrad and I've never experienced this situation... and it probably doesn't help that my lease is up in August, I have no idea where my next job will be and also I have to get married one of these days. Really didn't plan this out well. But you're right, I just have to chill and realize that there are always going to be options. If I end up long-term unemployed despite having a life sciences PhD, it's just because I suck.

Guilt-free Archer is one of life's great joys!
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Wed Apr 19, 2017 9:04 pm

Tired of being broke and unhappy. Been applying to other jobs but no bites so far.

I'm also tired of feeling discouraged and hopeless. Depression blows.
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Thu Apr 20, 2017 9:55 am

Tessablue wrote:
Somnambulist wrote:I have to be slightly unhappy to be happy so that is what it is. I like 70% of my job. The other 20% is just ugh, and the other 10% is upset because I can't sleep as late as I want and can't be someone's personal shopper.

I really wouldn't listen to people say anything about jobs. Everyone says the worst always. Nothing is really ever as bad as people make it out to be. You might not love your first job but you will milk it for all it's worth and then one day you will find something better. I'm a huge believer of job shopping every 1-2 years.

I only have a BA but the first few months out of college were truly the worst in my life. It's a strange transition back to the real world. You're so used to going 24/7 that your adrenaline is still high and everything is terribly unsure. Going from having all of my time organized down to the minute for study plans to having only the gym and Skyrim was uhm, difficult. I literally washed all the walls in my house with a rag because the idea of having nothing to drove me insane. I still don't like sitting around do much of nothing but I'm watching Archer pretty guilt free these days.
Oh man, is that what my problem is? I have some things to finish and I'm not leaving the lab for a at least a month, but I've completely lost my mind since my defense and I have no idea why. I haven't slept and I'm just constantly on the verge of losing it, even though I'm finished with what is ostensibly the most stressful part of the entire graduate career. But I went straight to grad school out of undergrad and I've never experienced this situation... and it probably doesn't help that my lease is up in August, I have no idea where my next job will be and also I have to get married one of these days. Really didn't plan this out well. But you're right, I just have to chill and realize that there are always going to be options. If I end up long-term unemployed despite having a life sciences PhD, it's just because I suck.

Guilt-free Archer is one of life's great joys!
You should all go to law school! You graduate with your JD and it's all woohoo, we survived! But oh, YOU'RE NOT DONE STUDYING. Because now you need to study for the bar exam, a final two day weeding out of the unworthy (because 1L year wasn't enough).

And then you take it (someone had a grand mal seizure during the exam when I took it) and have to wait a few months to find out if you passed. I'm still so thankful that I passed on the first try.

And then I promptly found a job that didn't require a license or a JD. :lol: And two other positions at the same company later, I have my dream job. I still get annoyed (because people and technology) but I get to correct other people's grammar and I'm using the things I learned in law school (and while studying for the bar).

My husband has a phD in physics and had some anxious moments about employment right away (he cannot just sit and do nothing for any length of time), but now he's an engineer and apparently everyone is hiring engineers.
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Thu Apr 20, 2017 6:14 pm

Somnambulist wrote:[
May God be listening and may we all hit the super on Derby day.
If you're asking for a miracle, why not set your goal higher than that? The 2015 Derby superfecta paid $634.10, and last year's was even less than that.
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Thu Apr 20, 2017 9:41 pm

Do you ever say anything positive, ever. Or is it fun to find the worst in everything to point it out.
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Fri Apr 21, 2017 12:08 am

Somnambulist wrote:Do you ever say anything positive, ever. Or is it fun to find the worst in everything to point it out.
Frequently, but apparently not to you, at least not from your perspective.
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Fri Apr 21, 2017 12:35 pm

starrydreamer wrote: You should all go to law school! You graduate with your JD and it's all woohoo, we survived! But oh, YOU'RE NOT DONE STUDYING. Because now you need to study for the bar exam, a final two day weeding out of the unworthy (because 1L year wasn't enough).

And then you take it (someone had a grand mal seizure during the exam when I took it) and have to wait a few months to find out if you passed. I'm still so thankful that I passed on the first try.

And then I promptly found a job that didn't require a license or a JD. :lol: And two other positions at the same company later, I have my dream job. I still get annoyed (because people and technology) but I get to correct other people's grammar and I'm using the things I learned in law school (and while studying for the bar).

My husband has a phD in physics and had some anxious moments about employment right away (he cannot just sit and do nothing for any length of time), but now he's an engineer and apparently everyone is hiring engineers.
Haha too late, I lived with a lawyer for a year and know better already ;) That's awesome that you ended up with your dream job though! I just learned that my PI can keep me funded through at least June, with the option to end it at any point should I find a job, so that's a huge weight off my shoulders.

...and I'm not certain that a $600 superfecta is mathematically possible this year. Super payouts are heavily driven down when big favorites finish first, and the past two years have both featured heavily favored winners with second and third betting choices also hitting the board. This year is unlikely to produce a favorite lower than 5-1, and even if that favorite wins, the super is highly likely to pay out tens of thousands of dollars at minimum. I'd say from both logical and personal perspectives that there's no reason to throw cold water on that particular dream.
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Fri Apr 21, 2017 12:54 pm

Besides, you can always drive up the payout by betting more than the minimum amount. A successful single shot stab at a super (without fancy boxes) already would produce a nice chunk of change even off a ten buck investment.
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Fri Apr 21, 2017 12:56 pm

Starine wrote:Tired of being broke and unhappy. Been applying to other jobs but no bites so far.

I'm also tired of feeling discouraged and hopeless. Depression blows.
Sorry to hear that... hope things turn around for you soon.
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Fri Apr 21, 2017 1:45 pm

Tessablue wrote: ...and I'm not certain that a $600 superfecta is mathematically possible this year. Super payouts are heavily driven down when big favorites finish first, and the past two years have both featured heavily favored winners with second and third betting choices also hitting the board. This year is unlikely to produce a favorite lower than 5-1, and even if that favorite wins, the super is highly likely to pay out tens of thousands of dollars at minimum. I'd say from both logical and personal perspectives that there's no reason to throw cold water on that particular dream.
Hey, I'm all for a super that pays upwards of 5 digits. Heck, 4 digits wouldn't be shabby.
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Fri Apr 21, 2017 9:01 pm

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Starine wrote:Tired of being broke and unhappy. Been applying to other jobs but no bites so far.

I'm also tired of feeling discouraged and hopeless. Depression blows.
Sorry to hear that... hope things turn around for you soon.
Thank you for reaching out. It's hard to when you are depressed -- you know people always say that you should but then all it seems to do mostly is scare others away, or people just think you are whiny.
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Fri Apr 21, 2017 9:44 pm

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Tessablue wrote:
Starine wrote:Tired of being broke and unhappy. Been applying to other jobs but no bites so far.

I'm also tired of feeling discouraged and hopeless. Depression blows.
Sorry to hear that... hope things turn around for you soon.
Thank you for reaching out. It's hard to when you are depressed -- you know people always say that you should but then all it seems to do mostly is scare others away, or people just think you are whiny.
Meh, I'm a professional complainer. People still love me even if I drive them crazy. It's not easy connecting with people - SO's or friends. The late 20's/early 30's is a real dearth of friends and connections that people are for some reason afraid to admit.

It's their loss girl. I don't make a lot either and I routinely feel mad and anxious about never having any money. I don't even know where my college diploma is I'm that mad at it. I can't imagine even spending $5 on an Ikea frame to frame such a waste of time. But only in America are we ever able to feel education is a waste. My grandma didn't even go to middle school. Don't let your job or money consume you. I'm pretty poor too and life is a lot more than money. And I get how ridiculous that sounds. I think you'll be just fine.
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Sat Apr 22, 2017 6:44 am

Could be worse.
I just woke up because the garbage truck at the Burger King on the corner dropped the dumpster from at least 3 feet up onto pavement. Probably levitated 60 people out of bed at 6 AM on a Saturday. I could open my front door and learn curses in 14 languages. It then compressed everything. I'm letting it cool down out there before I get the paper.
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Sat Apr 22, 2017 10:05 am

The health Gods have it in for me. After going through a year and a half of pure hell with all things gone wrong, I've now been diagnosed with a fractured thoracic vertebrae and OsteoP. Going on a generic for Fosamax. When the hell will it ever end?!~
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Ballerina wrote:The health Gods have it in for me. After going through a year and a half of pure hell with all things gone wrong, I've now been diagnosed with a fractured thoracic vertebrae and OsteoP. Going on a generic for Fosamax. When the hell will it ever end?!~
Go see an expert, very soon. Nowadays they can... surgically reshape fractured vertebrae (without spinal cord damage) in a very quick procedure, takes something like 15 minutes for the substance (plastic? glue ?) to harden, but this only works on new fractures, not old ones.
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Sat Apr 22, 2017 1:34 pm

Catalina wrote:
Ballerina wrote:The health Gods have it in for me. After going through a year and a half of pure hell with all things gone wrong, I've now been diagnosed with a fractured thoracic vertebrae and OsteoP. Going on a generic for Fosamax. When the hell will it ever end?!~
Go see an expert, very soon. Nowadays they can... surgically reshape fractured vertebrae (without spinal cord damage) in a very quick procedure, takes something like 15 minutes for the substance (plastic? glue ?) to harden, but this only works on new fractures, not old ones.
I'll check it out. It has not been proposed by my doctors. On pain meds every 12 hours. Don't want to live like that. Thanks for the tip.
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Sat Apr 22, 2017 2:11 pm

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Catalina wrote:
Ballerina wrote:The health Gods have it in for me. After going through a year and a half of pure hell with all things gone wrong, I've now been diagnosed with a fractured thoracic vertebrae and OsteoP. Going on a generic for Fosamax. When the hell will it ever end?!~
Go see an expert, very soon. Nowadays they can... surgically reshape fractured vertebrae (without spinal cord damage) in a very quick procedure, takes something like 15 minutes for the substance (plastic? glue ?) to harden, but this only works on new fractures, not old ones.
I'll check it out. It has not been proposed by my doctors. On pain meds every 12 hours. Don't want to live like that. Thanks for the tip.
Try talking with a neurosurgeon, if nothing else s/he should be able to direct you. I have a 92-year old relative who had that done last year, in Europe. I think they kept her in the hospital overnight after the procedure. It greatly improved the pain, almost immediately, and was supposed to improve it further later on (not sure if the pain every fully went away, but I can ask her). However, they could not do anything about collapsed vertebrae that were several years old.
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Sat Apr 22, 2017 9:57 pm

Somnambulist wrote:Meh, I'm a professional complainer. People still love me even if I drive them crazy. It's not easy connecting with people - SO's or friends. The late 20's/early 30's is a real dearth of friends and connections that people are for some reason afraid to admit.

It's their loss girl. I don't make a lot either and I routinely feel mad and anxious about never having any money. I don't even know where my college diploma is I'm that mad at it. I can't imagine even spending $5 on an Ikea frame to frame such a waste of time. But only in America are we ever able to feel education is a waste. My grandma didn't even go to middle school. Don't let your job or money consume you. I'm pretty poor too and life is a lot more than money. And I get how ridiculous that sounds. I think you'll be just fine.
Thanks for writing. I think I am just frustrated and depressed because there has been no personal growth for some time. I took a huge pay cut to be closer to my family. I haven't made any friends since I moved, and I haven't been on a date in years. I want to believe that things will change, but honestly there's a part of me that's already given up.
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Sun Apr 23, 2017 12:24 pm

Starine wrote:
Somnambulist wrote:Meh, I'm a professional complainer. People still love me even if I drive them crazy. It's not easy connecting with people - SO's or friends. The late 20's/early 30's is a real dearth of friends and connections that people are for some reason afraid to admit.

It's their loss girl. I don't make a lot either and I routinely feel mad and anxious about never having any money. I don't even know where my college diploma is I'm that mad at it. I can't imagine even spending $5 on an Ikea frame to frame such a waste of time. But only in America are we ever able to feel education is a waste. My grandma didn't even go to middle school. Don't let your job or money consume you. I'm pretty poor too and life is a lot more than money. And I get how ridiculous that sounds. I think you'll be just fine.
Thanks for writing. I think I am just frustrated and depressed because there has been no personal growth for some time. I took a huge pay cut to be closer to my family. I haven't made any friends since I moved, and I haven't been on a date in years. I want to believe that things will change, but honestly there's a part of me that's already given up.
As someone who has depression, you sound like you might qualify for a clinic depression diagnosis. Do you have some form of health insurance? It might help to talk to a professional.

Ballerina - I hope your docs are able to find you a solution that doesn't require you to be on pain meds.

Remember when I had all that sinus pain from the infected tooth that needed to come out? Well, the antibiotics I was prescribed before got rid of the fever and chills but the sinus pain migrated from my cheekbone up to my brow bone. Now I'm on more antibiotics, mucinex, and 800 mg of Ibuprofen. If I don't take the ibuprofen every 8 hours as prescribed, the pain is almost debilitating. If it's not better by tomorrow, I'm supposed to call and get my treatment plan changed. I'm almost wondering if I need to go in for a CT scan to make sure nothing else is going on - the pain is very localized.
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