The VENT Thread

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Starine
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Mon Apr 24, 2017 8:24 am

Thanks for writing, SD. I actually have had depression since I was in middle school, although the diagnosis has fluctuated from double depression to Type II Bipolar over the years depending on the doctor. So this is nothing new for me; I'm just having another episode where I slide from dysthymia to major depression.

I do have health insurance, but it's very crappy insurance and I just can't afford the steep copays for therapy appointments.

But thank you to you and others who have reached out in this thread. It means a lot to know that people do care.
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Tue Apr 25, 2017 11:34 pm

starrydreamer wrote: Remember when I had all that sinus pain from the infected tooth that needed to come out? Well, the antibiotics I was prescribed before got rid of the fever and chills but the sinus pain migrated from my cheekbone up to my brow bone. Now I'm on more antibiotics, mucinex, and 800 mg of Ibuprofen. If I don't take the ibuprofen every 8 hours as prescribed, the pain is almost debilitating. If it's not better by tomorrow, I'm supposed to call and get my treatment plan changed. I'm almost wondering if I need to go in for a CT scan to make sure nothing else is going on - the pain is very localized.
Sounds like the second cousin to the sinus infection from hell that I had a few years ago. My doctor did order a CT scan, which quickly got me whisked to the ENT folks who then finally got a handle on the infection. Hope you get this under control fast!
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Wed Apr 26, 2017 7:37 pm

Catalina wrote:
starrydreamer wrote: Remember when I had all that sinus pain from the infected tooth that needed to come out? Well, the antibiotics I was prescribed before got rid of the fever and chills but the sinus pain migrated from my cheekbone up to my brow bone. Now I'm on more antibiotics, mucinex, and 800 mg of Ibuprofen. If I don't take the ibuprofen every 8 hours as prescribed, the pain is almost debilitating. If it's not better by tomorrow, I'm supposed to call and get my treatment plan changed. I'm almost wondering if I need to go in for a CT scan to make sure nothing else is going on - the pain is very localized.
Sounds like the second cousin to the sinus infection from hell that I had a few years ago. My doctor did order a CT scan, which quickly got me whisked to the ENT folks who then finally got a handle on the infection. Hope you get this under control fast!
I went and saw an actual doctor today and got both an MRI scheduled and a prescription for imitrex (to see if that will help with pain because I made it clear I was not thrilled with the idea of being on over-the-counter pain meds indefinitely. I can't take any more ibuprofen and so I've been taking Tylenol and that just doesn't work as well). MRI is next week, so I have to manage until then.
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Wed Apr 26, 2017 8:16 pm

starrydreamer wrote:
Catalina wrote:
starrydreamer wrote: Remember when I had all that sinus pain from the infected tooth that needed to come out? Well, the antibiotics I was prescribed before got rid of the fever and chills but the sinus pain migrated from my cheekbone up to my brow bone. Now I'm on more antibiotics, mucinex, and 800 mg of Ibuprofen. If I don't take the ibuprofen every 8 hours as prescribed, the pain is almost debilitating. If it's not better by tomorrow, I'm supposed to call and get my treatment plan changed. I'm almost wondering if I need to go in for a CT scan to make sure nothing else is going on - the pain is very localized.
Sounds like the second cousin to the sinus infection from hell that I had a few years ago. My doctor did order a CT scan, which quickly got me whisked to the ENT folks who then finally got a handle on the infection. Hope you get this under control fast!
I went and saw an actual doctor today and got both an MRI scheduled and a prescription for imitrex (to see if that will help with pain because I made it clear I was not thrilled with the idea of being on over-the-counter pain meds indefinitely. I can't take any more ibuprofen and so I've been taking Tylenol and that just doesn't work as well). MRI is next week, so I have to manage until then.
If it gets worse, do let the doctor know, there's no extra points for being a hero. Good luck!
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Sun May 07, 2017 11:36 am

My landlady strikes again.
That's the one that dumped her ADHD son in my lap yesterday. The attention span of a parakeet.
Now, this morning, she has dumped him on me again. No phone call first, no message on computer or door, not even taped to his head. Nada. He's squawking already. Back to SpongeBob.
In addition, the kid just buttered something with a boning knife while I was doing dishes. I immediately sliced my thumb open with it when he tossed it into the soapy water without telling me first.
Oh, I also have to haul him and an as yet unbought bday present to some party 5 miles away.
I may live through this.
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Mon May 08, 2017 4:13 pm

Catalina wrote:
If it gets worse, do let the doctor know, there's no extra points for being a hero. Good luck!
I got to see my MRI images at the ENT today. My right sinuses are so inflamed, even the doc was impressed. He's fairly certain that it was caused by some bacteria from my infected tooth making a home in my sinus. More antibiotics and neti potting and if those don't clear things up, then a CT scan and possible sinus surgery. He stuck a camera up my nose but said he couldn't see any visible polyps or tumors. I still have headaches every day but they seem to have calmed down, so hopefully I won't need surgery.

My left sinus is perfectly clear, so the difference was kind of comical.
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Mon May 08, 2017 5:47 pm

Here's hoping that irrigation and more antibiotics will do the trick, SD!
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Mon May 08, 2017 7:21 pm

ElPrado2: My landlady strikes again.

Unless your right to occupy your residence is dependent on being the on-call-at-any-time babysitter, have you tried 'No' with this person? Or discussed the issue with her at a time when she isn't dropping him in your lap? :?
If she just doesn't listen, I suspect that her son's short attention span may be inherited. Kind of feel sorry for the boy...and you, of course. :P
Good luck.
I have no patience with stuff like that, so I probably would have locked my door and refused to answer it whenever she showed up. :lol:
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Tue May 09, 2017 4:46 pm

Today my boss pulled me into her office to give me a talking-to about doing non-work related stuff during work time. I'll gladly cop to it -- I was overwhelmed by an event outside of work and felt some pressure to focus on it, so I had a few distracted hours last week. I'm also human, and focus is not always my strong suit, so I do my share of dallying on FB and whatever. I always get my work done, and she has been nothing but glowing about my performance since I started in October. But it was a legitimate concern and her pulling me aside was appropriate.

I was a little curious, afterward, how she'd come to the conclusion I was skimping my hours. I'd just flushed my computer's registries and done some tidying, so none of my history/files/etc. would've still been there. Opened up my browser to find that on Thursday, after I left work, she'd logged onto my computer, gone into my personal email (stupidly left logged into -- my fault), and looked at my sent email. Then she searched my inbox for the words "resume" and "counseling," clicked on some things including a Google Hangout chat with a friend I hadn't spoken to on Gmail since last year, and signed out.

Just checking on my sent mail would be one thing, but the searches seriously wig me out. She knew what I would've been working on -- trying to see if I'd sent my resume around (I hadn't) is so not her business. I inquired very briefly about an admissions counselor job a few months ago because I was on the hunt for reduced tuition, but to then search a word like "counseling," which could've easily brought up very private conversations with a therapist or friend? W. T. F.

After all the reprimands for not focusing at work, I spent all day feeling gross and fuming. I'm *fine* with being punished for not doing my job at all times. That is my error and I apologized for it. But to snoop through my personal email for a hell of a lot more than what I was up to last week? Ick. Ick. Ick.
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Tue May 09, 2017 6:30 pm

I hope you brought up how series HIPPA is.

Id also start applying x 3.
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Wed May 10, 2017 6:15 am

There were extenuating circumstances. Which she finally told me about. A friend was evacuated from her home 50 miles away because of a brush fire. The kid doesn't like the woman, and it's mutual. However, the brat is like a tornado. He had clothes with him, and changed them every time he went in the bathroom. Nothing I try to feed him will be edible, according to him. (I was stuck with him all day, worked as a short order cook and in a major restaurant as a cook) and I caught him trying to open a can of tuna with a boning knife. The vagaries of a can opener are beyond him. Instead he was pounding the knife into the can with a pot lid. ( I do have to use the restroom eventually). That I managed to get away from him. Then he didn't want tuna.We wound up with pizza.
I don't drink, but by the time Mom came back I was contemplating a bottle of tequila.
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Wed May 10, 2017 10:56 am

Insane Crazy wrote:Today my boss pulled me into her office to give me a talking-to about doing non-work related stuff during work time.

Here's what you should know about the privacy of your work emails—namely, that you don't have any.

Detailed legal explanations here... http://time.com/money/3729939/work-pers ... nton-byod/

1) Your employer can monitor pretty much anything you access on the company's computer system, even your personal email account.

2) Assume any email, text message, or other electronic communication you send on your employer's system can be used against you.

3) Beware of "George Carlin software."


4) Emailing company documents to your personal account could get you in trouble.

5) When you set up your company's email on your personal phone, you often give your employer the right to delete all of your personal data.
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Wed May 10, 2017 12:04 pm

Yep. It's true. If you have a work email or account your supervisor can access anything and everything that you do on it. Even a simple Happy Birthday post to a friends Facebook page could potentially get you into trouble. Far better to pick up your personal phone ( if possible) for anything other than work related issues. If you can't have your phone with you at work it's better just to wait until you go on break to do your personal business.
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Wed May 10, 2017 12:22 pm

Oh, I fully understand it is well within her legal right. As I said, I am not at all bothered by the reprimand. I wouldn't even be bothered by her peeking at my sent emails to see how much time I had spent elsewhere (though I would be annoyed).

It was searching for stuff that had nothing to do with her concern. She knew exactly what I was working on, as I've seen the screenshots she took of my recent PDF documents, and they're all very clearly about the event. It's an Occam's Razor thing -- the most obvious distraction for me was this event, which she knew was weighing on me. The timestamp on those is BEFORE she went into my email and searched for "resume" or "counseling," both of which are personal things that are none of her damn business.

We have a four person office, with no HR or IT that normally an employer would need to go through to look at my email. She just gave me a guilt-tripping discussion about breaches of trust and decorum. It skeeves me out that she has unilateral power to do that, and that she used it for that specific purpose.

Interestingly enough, she didn't actually check my FB, which was also probably still logged in. Odd.
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Wed May 10, 2017 12:22 pm

I don't think IC thinks she has rights. Her manager was morally bankrupt.

And sounds like she's paranoid about losing an employee.
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Wed May 10, 2017 2:04 pm

Somnambulist wrote: Her manager was morally bankrupt.
And therein lies the problem.

I'm never quite sure why the employee has trouble understanding that there are consequences for stealing, it's not the manager's fault for catching them.

If there was a cash register in play, everybody seems to understand that taking a $20 out and putting it in your pocket is wrong and you could be punished. But if you cheat the system and take an extra $20 on your paycheck for work not performed....."well that's okay because everybody does it". WRONG!

Stealing is stealing, period. If you use company resources to conduct personal business while on the clock, you really don't have much to say in defense when you get caught, game over.
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Wed May 10, 2017 3:00 pm

stark wrote:
Somnambulist wrote: Her manager was morally bankrupt.
And therein lies the problem.

I'm never quite sure why the employee has trouble understanding that there are consequences for stealing, it's not the manager's fault for catching them.

If there was a cash register in play, everybody seems to understand that taking a $20 out and putting it in your pocket is wrong and you could be punished. But if you cheat the system and take an extra $20 on your paycheck for work not performed....."well that's okay because everybody does it". WRONG!

Stealing is stealing, period. If you use company resources to conduct personal business while on the clock, you really don't have much to say in defense when you get caught, game over.
Lmao. I've said repeatedly that I understand my error and take full responsibility for it. Not once did I suggest her reprimanding me, or even checking my work computer, was wrong. I cop to it and I reflected my distraction on my timesheet. I'm not asking for payment for the time regardless.

But snooping for non-work related concerns on my personal email? For the term "counseling," which could have brought up countless things unrelated to any of her business? For trying to see if I sent a resume out, when I'm a half time employee in the first place? For reading a GChat log I had not accessed since October -- and then, not even at work when I did?

Sorry. That's not okay with me. Period. You can call me petulant all you want, but none of that had to do with the issue at hand.
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Wed May 10, 2017 3:14 pm

Reading comprehension is vital.
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Wed May 10, 2017 3:59 pm

I hear you say that you get it, but I'm not sure you really do.
It seems like you want to say "But, But...........she was wrong.

And when you say things like.....when I'm a half time employee in the first place?
I'm further convinced you don't really get it.

The manager is like a wife catching her husband cheating, there are no rules what she can and can't look for.
Live with it, turn the page and stop feeling infringed upon.
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Wed May 10, 2017 4:48 pm

Y'know, it ain't worth the time. Employers don't have moral leave to look into an employee's private life. That's why work-based reprimands, write-ups, and protocols exist. Going outside of it is icky. Legal, but ethically questionable.

The half-time comment was in reference to the fact that I can apply for another half-time job and not have it impact her. It really isn't her business if I am, so long as I follow my contractual obligations to her.

Anyway. Yeah. My feelings of infringement are non-negotiable and I feel zero remorse for them when it comes to her actually using search keywords in my email related to therapy and non-work life. But it's all good -- I *am* applying to other jobs now and will be happy for a change of pace.
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